Category Archives: Emotions

One Taste


In Buddhism there is a concept referred to as “one taste”, and it is something that can be used effectively by anyone, not just Buddhists.  One taste describes having the same level of emotional response to the bad as to … Continue reading

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Untapped Reservoirs of Pain


No matter how many years you may stare yourself in the face, work through endless therapy sessions and so forth, you can always find an unknown, untapped reservoir of pain in your heart. When we find ourselves stuck and weeping … Continue reading

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The Price of Admission


I was reading Stephen Levine’s book, Unattended Sorrow, when I was struck by a statement he made: We are learning to live with the consequences of love.  So we must bear loss as deeply as we cared. There it is, … Continue reading

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Generosity?


What is it that makes you feel generous?  Do you give a dollar to a panhandler and assume it will go for drink or drugs?  Do you put a dollar in the collection plate because it’s expected?  Those may look … Continue reading

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Tolerance and Acceptance


I recently had an interesting discussion on tolerance, prompted by a remark of mine that my partner and I have entirely different religious views.  “How can you like someone whose ideas are so radically different,”  I was asked.  This brought … Continue reading

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Why Are We Afraid of Grief?


Recently, a woman quit her job and filed a lawsuit because her supervisor had directed her to remove mementoes of her deceased daughter from her work area and to stop talking about the young woman to coworkers.  The court found … Continue reading

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Storytelling


I recently had a conversation with a client about “storytelling”, the way we editorialize in our heads about what we observe and experience in the world around us.  We often encounter an unpleasant situation or person and immediately react by … Continue reading

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Sadness and Dealing With It


Sadness is not the same thing as depression, although they certainly can intermingle, particularly if you are a sufferer from chronic depression, as am I.  Today I’m feeling rather sad, and instead of ignoring it and hoping it will get … Continue reading

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Choices


Today I heard a friend say she had become angry when her therapist told her she had chosen to be unhappy and that she could choose to be happy instead.  My friend felt that the statement was ridiculous because no … Continue reading

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Surviving the Waves


It occurred to me today that grief is like standing waist deep in a heavy surf.  The waves pour over your head and knock you to the bottom, but then they recede for a moment before they pound you once … Continue reading

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